Sit Up Straight and Pay Attention!

What being a mother has done to me and I can already hear a lot of you go "Ahh not one more mom going "my babyy is chooooooooo cute!". Neeeeh this is not one of those posts.

Why I feel compelled to write about this is very important. Being a child of the "IT age" aka" the new world"... I was born with the "I know whats best for me and the world" syndrome ( and trust me I DO know better 80% of the time :D) ... Ahh before I digress and indulge in self admiration :D lets get this post back on track.

There are 2 things I see my peers struggle with, first is commitment to a relationship/person and when thats done, the next big question is - Do we really need a baby?

I am writing this blog for men as well as women who think they have these figured ....

(More after the break .... stay tuned! dont go anywhere we will be right back ;))

Back now!

So that was a long unpredictable journey between what motivated me to pen those words to how I think about the same things today...

My relationship with my daughter has helped me better my relationship with my parents. And having a child has made me realize that there are things in life you cant understand unless you experience it first hand. Being a parent is one of the simpler aspects of life and if it took me having a baby to connect to my parents, has me wondering/questioning my impressions/understanding/judgement of the other aspects of life

Having a child has me questioning everything I so took for granted all my life.

Do I really understand what it like to be in the thick on a financial meltdown?

Do I really know whats it like to be a single mom in India or any other country?

Do I really understand what motivates people to outsource their work to India?

Some personal some professional questions.

Getting promotion at work, getting a higher paying job, seeing new places, meeting more people, getting another educational degree, getting a bigger house, buying a bigger car, getting a new hobby or doing something I've always wanted to ... nothing compares or makes you feel whole as having a child.

I don't mean to say you will stop wanting all those things but after having a child it will be for a different reason than trying to define your identity.

I was a skeptic before I had one and now I am a believer.

Lessons Learnt

In all my jobs so far, I have had the privilege of working closely with professionals who are thought leaders and awe-inspiring. During my working relationship with each one of these wonderful people I have learnt some valuable lessons and I feel obliged to share it with the world.
Lesson 1 - You are never the first person to face a certain kind of a problem in this world. Go back and look in history of mankind every time you feel you are lost and need an answer
Lesson 2 - Any piece of work is just a matter of doing. Some folks can do it better than you and some will do it worse than you. But always remember the difference is marginal. Dont beat yourself if you lose some and celebrate too much if you win one.
Lesson 3 - Our life for what it is ... is sum of our decision over time. Don’t wake up one day and be startled coz this is not where you wanted to be, because this is exactly what you have been working for
Lesson 4 - Success depends on good team work and learn to acknowledge it every time you get a chance.
Lesson 5 - Be honest to your profession and respect what others do.

In the Beginning...

Like all well meaning people I have been wanting to get these thoughts out of my head and onto a paper ... for a very long time and here I am now, like each one of you having so much to share but are overwhelmed by the sea of thoughts/information you would like to get out of your head, always struggling with the question "where do I begin". What finally got me here and typing ... is a friend's blog. He sent a link to his blog over the weekend and I was moved by his words, how he views the world around him. So here I am for the test, a lil' nervous and a lil' excited and sure that this will grow on me and become a vehicle for sharing my thoughts with the world. I come with a lot of optimism, so bear with me, until I learn the ways of the "Bloggers".